Today I wanted Zayden to go potty before his nap, so I sat him on the toilet.
Z: I don't have to go.
Me: Let's try singing a song, and then maybe you'll go.
I then sing the abcs, and pause after every few letters and Z says, "That isn't working."
Me: Okay, let me turn on the faucet.
Z: That is still not working...........It's working. You cheated!!!
Sunday, November 15, 2009
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
"Deep Thoughts" uttered by Z man
Last night:
"This is the American Flag! (Pointing at flag on his astronaut costume) Obama gave us this."
"God likes my voice."
"This is the American Flag! (Pointing at flag on his astronaut costume) Obama gave us this."
"God likes my voice."
Sunday, November 1, 2009
When it's over, it's over!!!
Okay a little post about my divorce.
If I were to have my way, we would be divorced by now. We would have a set schedule that was open to some flexibility with the kids, and we could all move on and live our separate but happy lives.
However, things are not happening to my liking. I am trying to be calm about it and just focus on the kids, but it IS frustrating. I am frustrated.
Once the child support amount was set Brian turned into a unreasonable person. He has since gotten another lawyer, and wants to "fight this". However, nothing is happening with him and his lawyer. I ask him 2x/week what his lawyer said, and what is the next step, and he keeps telling me that either a)Brian is busy or b) the lawyer hasn't gotten back in touch with him. I have contacted my lawyer too, and plan to procede on my own with the divorce. However, this will mean the divorce is contested and we will have a hearing which equals A LOT more money on both of our parts. GRRRR! So, I have been trying to get Brian to either tell me he wants to take it to hearing to fight the child support (his only disagreement in the entire paperwork that was drawn up), or that he compromises with me, and we just file together. He is just shuffling his feet and it is so frustrating. And the child support is figured out with a standard formula so that probably wouldn't change anyway. The only way it will change is if Brian fights for joint custody and gets it. This is ridiculous and scary to me at the same time. I won't go into big details about that, but that is pretty much one of my worst nightmares....if it could happen. Seeing as how he lives with his parents and never takes them overnight, etc.... I doubt a judge would rule things that way, but who knows.
Now the other frustration is how present he is in OUR lives. I understand he wants to be part of their lives, but I wish it could be more separate of mine! He wants to come over several evenings a week to just hang out and then read a couple bedtime stories to Z. I let him come over for the kids' sake, but I hate having him here all the time. I know maybe I should tell him not to, but I guess I decide I can suffer a little for the kids' happiness.
He also wants to do things still as a family and that is not in my agenda. I see my family now as the THREE of us, and he isn't included anymore in MY family. He is my kid's dad, but I want to do family things without him.
He often asks if he can do things with us. I try to avoid the topic or make excuses. This week was bad. He knew I was taking the kids to the zoo for ZooBoo. I was very excited about doing this with my kids. 3 minutes before I arrive at the zoo, he calls me. He informs me that HE is at the zoo, and wants to know if he can walk around with us. UGH!!!!!! WTF? Of course I let him. However, it was awkward and uncomfortable.....but slightly helpful I admit to have an extra pair of eyes and hands.
Then on Halloween he wants to go trick or treating with us. I let him of course, but what I didn't count on was his parents joining us too!! Seriously!! He told me they were coming over and taking some pictures and then leaving. Of course that was a lie. They came over and went with us to EVERY house. And it gets better. His mom was wearing a sweatshirt that had a picture of a goofy little boy, and underneath it read, "Proud grandmother of Zayden". LOL!! It is a little funny looking back now, but last night I was pissed. Oh and it still gets better. His mom has a sore leg so after the 3rd house, she went back to get her bright red suv, and then drove along the street beside us throughout the entire neighborhood, parking or pausing in the street in front of each house the kids went to!! This was NOT my idea of a fun time trick or treating as a family.
I did try to not let it get to me though, and I just focused on the kids last night, and enjoyed our evening despite the weirdness. But GEEZ!! And I know I should be grateful that my kids have such involved grandparents....but can't they be really involved on Brian's watch and not mine.
Now today we are getting ready to go to the park to have pictures taken. I did NOT tell Brian about this. However, he has already texted me asking if we are doing anything fun. I refused to text back. I'm afraid if I even tell him we are going to a park, he will start searching the parks for us. ugh!!!
There is lot more I could go on about, but it is picture time!!! :D
If I were to have my way, we would be divorced by now. We would have a set schedule that was open to some flexibility with the kids, and we could all move on and live our separate but happy lives.
However, things are not happening to my liking. I am trying to be calm about it and just focus on the kids, but it IS frustrating. I am frustrated.
Once the child support amount was set Brian turned into a unreasonable person. He has since gotten another lawyer, and wants to "fight this". However, nothing is happening with him and his lawyer. I ask him 2x/week what his lawyer said, and what is the next step, and he keeps telling me that either a)Brian is busy or b) the lawyer hasn't gotten back in touch with him. I have contacted my lawyer too, and plan to procede on my own with the divorce. However, this will mean the divorce is contested and we will have a hearing which equals A LOT more money on both of our parts. GRRRR! So, I have been trying to get Brian to either tell me he wants to take it to hearing to fight the child support (his only disagreement in the entire paperwork that was drawn up), or that he compromises with me, and we just file together. He is just shuffling his feet and it is so frustrating. And the child support is figured out with a standard formula so that probably wouldn't change anyway. The only way it will change is if Brian fights for joint custody and gets it. This is ridiculous and scary to me at the same time. I won't go into big details about that, but that is pretty much one of my worst nightmares....if it could happen. Seeing as how he lives with his parents and never takes them overnight, etc.... I doubt a judge would rule things that way, but who knows.
Now the other frustration is how present he is in OUR lives. I understand he wants to be part of their lives, but I wish it could be more separate of mine! He wants to come over several evenings a week to just hang out and then read a couple bedtime stories to Z. I let him come over for the kids' sake, but I hate having him here all the time. I know maybe I should tell him not to, but I guess I decide I can suffer a little for the kids' happiness.
He also wants to do things still as a family and that is not in my agenda. I see my family now as the THREE of us, and he isn't included anymore in MY family. He is my kid's dad, but I want to do family things without him.
He often asks if he can do things with us. I try to avoid the topic or make excuses. This week was bad. He knew I was taking the kids to the zoo for ZooBoo. I was very excited about doing this with my kids. 3 minutes before I arrive at the zoo, he calls me. He informs me that HE is at the zoo, and wants to know if he can walk around with us. UGH!!!!!! WTF? Of course I let him. However, it was awkward and uncomfortable.....but slightly helpful I admit to have an extra pair of eyes and hands.
Then on Halloween he wants to go trick or treating with us. I let him of course, but what I didn't count on was his parents joining us too!! Seriously!! He told me they were coming over and taking some pictures and then leaving. Of course that was a lie. They came over and went with us to EVERY house. And it gets better. His mom was wearing a sweatshirt that had a picture of a goofy little boy, and underneath it read, "Proud grandmother of Zayden". LOL!! It is a little funny looking back now, but last night I was pissed. Oh and it still gets better. His mom has a sore leg so after the 3rd house, she went back to get her bright red suv, and then drove along the street beside us throughout the entire neighborhood, parking or pausing in the street in front of each house the kids went to!! This was NOT my idea of a fun time trick or treating as a family.
I did try to not let it get to me though, and I just focused on the kids last night, and enjoyed our evening despite the weirdness. But GEEZ!! And I know I should be grateful that my kids have such involved grandparents....but can't they be really involved on Brian's watch and not mine.
Now today we are getting ready to go to the park to have pictures taken. I did NOT tell Brian about this. However, he has already texted me asking if we are doing anything fun. I refused to text back. I'm afraid if I even tell him we are going to a park, he will start searching the parks for us. ugh!!!
There is lot more I could go on about, but it is picture time!!! :D
Friday, October 30, 2009
Halloween funny
Conversation tonight:
Me: What do you say when you walk up to someones door?
Z: Trick or treat.
Me: And then what do you say after someone gives you candy?
Z: thank you
Me: and what if someone says oh you look so cute. What do you say?
Z: thank you
Me: what do you say if someone says 'what are you supposed to be?'
Z: I am supposed to be done by now. You want to move it along with the three musketeers.
This last line he heard in a Halloween book we have written by Jerry Seinfeld. He always laughs at that part in the book but I had no idea he memorized that line. He had me laughing so hard tonight. And of course because I was laughing he kept saying it. Later I asked him again what he says when he goes up to someones door. And he just laughed and said 'you want to move it along with the three musketeers.'
I'm rethinking my decision of reading that book to him. Tomorrow night could be interesting. Hehe!
Me: What do you say when you walk up to someones door?
Z: Trick or treat.
Me: And then what do you say after someone gives you candy?
Z: thank you
Me: and what if someone says oh you look so cute. What do you say?
Z: thank you
Me: what do you say if someone says 'what are you supposed to be?'
Z: I am supposed to be done by now. You want to move it along with the three musketeers.
This last line he heard in a Halloween book we have written by Jerry Seinfeld. He always laughs at that part in the book but I had no idea he memorized that line. He had me laughing so hard tonight. And of course because I was laughing he kept saying it. Later I asked him again what he says when he goes up to someones door. And he just laughed and said 'you want to move it along with the three musketeers.'
I'm rethinking my decision of reading that book to him. Tomorrow night could be interesting. Hehe!
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Ivy is getting a reputation
Yesterday was a beautiful day! We were outside playing in the afternoon with some nieghbor kids and their parents.
Zayden's pal Ethan and his mom Sarah were out and so was Ivy's pal Elijah and his mom Lori.
Sarah and Lori had never met before. She asked Lori how old her son was as Lori was holding him while Ivy was running around with the big boys.
Lori told her that he was 6 days older than Ivy. Sarah's response; "Well, Ivy will roughen him up. Just let him hang out with her for a little bit and he will turn into a crazy kid too!"
Is it odd that I felt pride with that comment? ;)
Zayden's pal Ethan and his mom Sarah were out and so was Ivy's pal Elijah and his mom Lori.
Sarah and Lori had never met before. She asked Lori how old her son was as Lori was holding him while Ivy was running around with the big boys.
Lori told her that he was 6 days older than Ivy. Sarah's response; "Well, Ivy will roughen him up. Just let him hang out with her for a little bit and he will turn into a crazy kid too!"
Is it odd that I felt pride with that comment? ;)
Monday, October 26, 2009
15 and 37
I haven't been blogging as much lately, as I have not had a computer. :( Blech!! However, I am borrowing a computer right now, and will have my own (from work) tomorrow. I hope it works okay....I heard horror stories.
Anyway I just wanted to write some updates on the kids as I haven't written much about them lately.
Ivy is 15 months old now and is just so full of personality now. Gosh, I love this girl!! She still doesn't talk a lot (not nearly as much as her brother did at this age). She has said maybe 15-20 words, but usually only will say 2-3 words on any given day. Luckily her most common word is "mama". :D She has learned quite a few animal sounds, and does probably close to 10 of those including: cow, duck, snake, tiger, sheep, horse, owl, dog, etc.. She also is really good at pointing at objects when named. She is a smarty pants even if she isn't expressing it lately. She is obsessed with books right now. She will seriously sit for hours and listen to books now and point at pictures. I LOVE it! I do admit though I do get a little tired of reading the same book 17 times in a row. If she really likes a book, she will start throwing a fit as I am reading the last page to cue me to turn back to the first page to start again. She is also continuing to climb on everything. She also LOVES ride toys. She can go so fast on those things. Her little legs go flying, and she looks like a spider. I really think she can go faster than Zayden on those already. She also is extremely affectionate. She gives hugs and kisses all day long, and loves to cuddle. I confess....she is perfect. LOL!
Zayden is also doing great as always! He makes me laugh out loud constantly. I wish I had time to write down all the funny things he says. I have so many people now that tell me how funny they think my son is.
Here is a story I have to share from 2 days ago that I still laugh about when I think about it.
He was sitting on my lap facing me and we were talking this was our conversation:
Me: You are so cute.
Z: I look like a girl
Me: What? Why do you think that?
Z: Because I have brown eyes and long hair.
Me: Who said you look like a girl?
Z: Everyone says that?
Me: Like who?
Z: Everyone says I am too pretty to be a boy.
Me: *laughing* Well, I think you are very handsome. You have handsome eyes, and a cute nose, and a very handsome smile.
Z: I think you are really pretty with that big nose and those big teeth.
Me: *Laughing so hard I couldn't speak*
Z: And those big eyes, and that big mouth, and those long skinny lips.
Me: *laughing until I am crying*
Z: *laughing*
He continues to love to play with guys ALL. THE. TIME. He is also still into rescue heroes, but plays with other guys too such as pirates, knights, superheros, etc... I still try to get him to work on his finemotor skills. Yesterday I tried to get him to color, and he pretended that the crayons were a family, and had them all start interacting and talking with each other. :)
He also is becoming more outgoing. If we are in a public place such as a park. He goes up to other kids and introduces himself, and sometimes asks them to play with him. He also talks more to adults now too. I am getting a lot of comments lately about how well he speaks. It is interesting to me because he has been speaking well for his age, but I think now because he is more outgoing others are noticing. I had a friend come over who teaches first grade a few weeks ago. She went on and on about how bright he was, and how she couldn't believe all the complex thoughts he was having etc... I felt proud at that, but then later on Zayden told her he just turned 3, and she said, "No, I think you are 4." She then looked at me and said, "Isn't he 4?" I beamed with pride as I told her he was right, and that he just turned 3. :D
Okay, I admit it....he is perfect. LOL!!!
Anyway I just wanted to write some updates on the kids as I haven't written much about them lately.
Ivy is 15 months old now and is just so full of personality now. Gosh, I love this girl!! She still doesn't talk a lot (not nearly as much as her brother did at this age). She has said maybe 15-20 words, but usually only will say 2-3 words on any given day. Luckily her most common word is "mama". :D She has learned quite a few animal sounds, and does probably close to 10 of those including: cow, duck, snake, tiger, sheep, horse, owl, dog, etc.. She also is really good at pointing at objects when named. She is a smarty pants even if she isn't expressing it lately. She is obsessed with books right now. She will seriously sit for hours and listen to books now and point at pictures. I LOVE it! I do admit though I do get a little tired of reading the same book 17 times in a row. If she really likes a book, she will start throwing a fit as I am reading the last page to cue me to turn back to the first page to start again. She is also continuing to climb on everything. She also LOVES ride toys. She can go so fast on those things. Her little legs go flying, and she looks like a spider. I really think she can go faster than Zayden on those already. She also is extremely affectionate. She gives hugs and kisses all day long, and loves to cuddle. I confess....she is perfect. LOL!
Zayden is also doing great as always! He makes me laugh out loud constantly. I wish I had time to write down all the funny things he says. I have so many people now that tell me how funny they think my son is.
Here is a story I have to share from 2 days ago that I still laugh about when I think about it.
He was sitting on my lap facing me and we were talking this was our conversation:
Me: You are so cute.
Z: I look like a girl
Me: What? Why do you think that?
Z: Because I have brown eyes and long hair.
Me: Who said you look like a girl?
Z: Everyone says that?
Me: Like who?
Z: Everyone says I am too pretty to be a boy.
Me: *laughing* Well, I think you are very handsome. You have handsome eyes, and a cute nose, and a very handsome smile.
Z: I think you are really pretty with that big nose and those big teeth.
Me: *Laughing so hard I couldn't speak*
Z: And those big eyes, and that big mouth, and those long skinny lips.
Me: *laughing until I am crying*
Z: *laughing*
He continues to love to play with guys ALL. THE. TIME. He is also still into rescue heroes, but plays with other guys too such as pirates, knights, superheros, etc... I still try to get him to work on his finemotor skills. Yesterday I tried to get him to color, and he pretended that the crayons were a family, and had them all start interacting and talking with each other. :)
He also is becoming more outgoing. If we are in a public place such as a park. He goes up to other kids and introduces himself, and sometimes asks them to play with him. He also talks more to adults now too. I am getting a lot of comments lately about how well he speaks. It is interesting to me because he has been speaking well for his age, but I think now because he is more outgoing others are noticing. I had a friend come over who teaches first grade a few weeks ago. She went on and on about how bright he was, and how she couldn't believe all the complex thoughts he was having etc... I felt proud at that, but then later on Zayden told her he just turned 3, and she said, "No, I think you are 4." She then looked at me and said, "Isn't he 4?" I beamed with pride as I told her he was right, and that he just turned 3. :D
Okay, I admit it....he is perfect. LOL!!!
Friday, October 16, 2009
Granny
Some kids have make believe friends. Z now has a make believe "granny". Today while we were driving home he told me he wanted/ had 2 moms. He then changed his story to him only having one mom, but also having a granny. Here are some of the things I can remember that he told me about his granny.
She gives him lots and lots of candy!!!! He mentioned this several times.
She has blue hair.
She wears a blue hood.
She has red buttons on her shirt.
She is really nice.
Ivy likes her too.
She lives far away in a black house.
She drives a big truck.
She takes Z for picnics, but not ivy.... Just the 2 of them.
He visits her when I am at work.
She gives z treats like fruit bars.
Right now she is sick. Poor granny.
He told Brian all about her tonight too.
She gives him lots and lots of candy!!!! He mentioned this several times.
She has blue hair.
She wears a blue hood.
She has red buttons on her shirt.
She is really nice.
Ivy likes her too.
She lives far away in a black house.
She drives a big truck.
She takes Z for picnics, but not ivy.... Just the 2 of them.
He visits her when I am at work.
She gives z treats like fruit bars.
Right now she is sick. Poor granny.
He told Brian all about her tonight too.
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