I can't believe I am "here". I am getting divorced. I am still in shock right now. I knew it was possibly coming, but for it to actually really be happening it is making me feel sick. :(
Brian and I have never had a good marriage. It started rough, when I found out about some lies a month into our marriage. The past 3 years he has been unable to regain my trust. Instead he has continued to act in ways to make me trust him less, and not treat me with the respect I deserve.
Last night I found another "incident" on his phone, and it was finally the straw that broke the camel's back. I'm done. We have gone to counseling TWICE now. I have tried and tried to make things work, but this marriage has to be 2 sided. I am no longer going to spend my time with someone who is unable to be completely honest and trustworthy. It's over. It is sooo over!
There have been other times where I have kicked him out of the house, or threatened the big "d", but he always got me to take him back. Not this time. I'm done. I want to be happy for the sake of my children. I am no longer going to pretend that I am in a happy marriage with a great man.
Brian and I have had some good conversations though, and we seem to be on the same page here. We both want to put the kids first, and try to make things as smooth as possible for them. We plan to hire just one lawyer and handle this out of court. We are agreeing on most issues, and I think we can come to an agreement on everything here eventually. I asked Brian to leave today, and he is now staying with his parents. I am in the process of looking for more work, so that I can have more income. I have a phone interview for a possible great job this coming Wednesday, and hope that works out. Once I am making more money myself, I will take over all the bills here, and Brian will get his own place. Hopefully that will be soon! I have told some friends and my brother, and everyone has been very supportive. I am lucky to have many great people in my life.
I am very very heartbroken though. Honestly I am not super upset about losing Brian, as we have not been happy for a long time. I am mostly so upset about losing out on so much time with my kids. I am going to have to work full time now AND give up some evenings and every other weekend with them. Also, I hate the idea of missing out on all the fun things we planned to do as a family like vacations, camping, baseball games, etc... None of that will be the same now. THAT is crushing me.....to the point where I feel like I could have a nervous breakdown when I think about it. I hate the thought of missing so much time with them. They are still so young! This is also the reason I hung on to this marriage longer than I probably should have.
However, I know deep down that I am doing the right thing for THEM. In order for me to be the best mom I can be, I need to be happy. I also don't want to raise them in an unhappy home with parents who don't Really love and respect each other. They deserve more!
I'm just really sad!
Friday, July 24, 2009
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Disappointed!
I am disappointed once again in my family....not my wonderful little family I created with my children, but my extended family.
I have told myself over and over again that I would just not let myself have any expectations for my family so that I wouldn't be let down, but I failed to do that last weekend.
I had NO family at Ivy's birthday party, and of course neither of my parents even called to wish her a happy birthday or to say they were thinking of us.
Thankfully I had a lot of nice friends and their families at her party, and Brian's family of course was there in full force.
Sometimes I just wish my family didn't suck so bad! At least I can take from this experience the kind of parent I NEVER want to be, and strive to be the best I can be every day for my beautiful children, and always be there for them. I don't want them to EVER feel disappointed or unloved by me.
I have told myself over and over again that I would just not let myself have any expectations for my family so that I wouldn't be let down, but I failed to do that last weekend.
I had NO family at Ivy's birthday party, and of course neither of my parents even called to wish her a happy birthday or to say they were thinking of us.
Thankfully I had a lot of nice friends and their families at her party, and Brian's family of course was there in full force.
Sometimes I just wish my family didn't suck so bad! At least I can take from this experience the kind of parent I NEVER want to be, and strive to be the best I can be every day for my beautiful children, and always be there for them. I don't want them to EVER feel disappointed or unloved by me.
Monday, July 20, 2009
Happy Happy First Birthday Baby Girl!
In honor of Ivy's first birthday, which was 2 days ago, I am going to list 101 things I love about my one year old!
1. Her smile
2. Her machine gun laugh
3. When she stands on her head while she is nursing. (I really hope to get a picture of this sometime)
4. Her growls
5. The way she loves to play with balls
6. Even her glass shattering high pitched screams
7. Her open mouthed kisses
8. That she will kiss her "babies"
9. The words she occasionally says: mama, dada, dog, baby, cracker, cup, and quack
10. Her adventurous streak. i.e. climbing everything...even though it scares me often
11. How well she now plays with Zayden
12. Her little curls in the back of her hair.
13. Her mole on her forehead
14. Those dimples
15. Her giggles
16. That she laughs when she hears someone else laugh
17. Her nonsense babbling
18. The way she walks all around
19. Her toes
20. Her love for shoes
21. Her love for being outside
22. That she loves the water
23. How she splashes in the water
24. The way she wants to be so independent at meal time
25. How she sits in my lap when I read to her
26. How she gets jealous of her brother, and will scream if I am holding him, and then try to push him aside.
27. How she plays well alone.
28. The way she "runs" to me when she notices that I have walked into the room
29. Her little butt
30. Her squishy belly
31. How she loves to be carrying something around
32. How excited she gets when going down a slide.
33. How happy she is to be swinging at the park.
34. Her love for her brother
35. Her screaming contests with her brother....sometimes
36. The way she dances when she hears music
37. Her lack of interest in the television
38. The way she claps.
39. That she has been 100% breastfed without any formula supplemented
40. Her curiosity
41. Her sense of awe
42. That she wants me to hold her when she is hurt, upset or scared
43. How she snuggles up to me before I put her to bed.
44. She is a good nurser
45. Her cheeks
46. Her happy disposition
47. Her "no fear" attitude
48. The way she chases Z
49. The way she runs back and forth between Brian and I when we are playing
50. Even her little fits
51. When she holds my hand/finger
52. The way she feels in my arms
53. The way she smells after bath
54. How cute she is wrapped up in a towel after bath
55. Watching her run around the house all happy to be naked
56. Her unique grayish eyes
57. How she is so good about taking things in stride
58. How she does really well in her carseat on trips.
59. That she loves to eat and eat and eat!
60. That she eats many veggies and fruit
61. That she does not have a dairy allergy.
62. How I can let her pick off of my plate without worries.
63. Her little whimpers.
64. Her little nose!
65. The way she flips pages in a book
66. How she loves to take walks
67. How she loves to push large objects around.
68. The way she will find a shoe and then it's match and walk around the house.
69. Watching her get mesmerized looking at herself in a mirror.
70. The way she squats for so long with so much ease.
71. Her ability to want to try anything
72. Her love for music
73. When she waves hi/bye occasionally.
74. How she will look for certain things when named.
75. How she is starting to show me things.
76. Her eyelashes
77. Her lips
78. All her little teeth
79. Her unconditional love for ME.
80. Her pouty frowns
81. When she blows raspberries on me and we both laugh
82. Her cute clothes
83. Her feet
84. Her little fingers
85. How she drinks so well from a sippy cup or straw
86. Her squealy laugh
87. How she naps pretty well
88. That she goes to bed pretty easily
89. That after nursing in the middle of the night she goes back to sleep easily.
90. How when she hears the bath water, she comes "running"
91. How she bounces on her zebra
92. The way she tries to jump
93. The way she climbs up on Z's timeout chair and rocks when I turn my back, and then laughs when I catch her.
94. The way she always goes and visits Z when he is in timeout.
95. Her chin
96. The way she loves to constantly open and close doors.
97. Watching her figure out something new
98. The way she can fall down hard, and get right back up smiling like nothing happened
99. The way she rubs her eyes when she is tired.
100. The joy she brings me E-V-E-R-Y day!!
101. She is MINE!!
And here are some pics of the birthday girl:
Her cake:
Her outfit:
Her checking out the cake and taking just little tastes:
Zayden and her playing in her favorite present, while she makes him laugh
And Z making her laugh:
1. Her smile
2. Her machine gun laugh
3. When she stands on her head while she is nursing. (I really hope to get a picture of this sometime)
4. Her growls
5. The way she loves to play with balls
6. Even her glass shattering high pitched screams
7. Her open mouthed kisses
8. That she will kiss her "babies"
9. The words she occasionally says: mama, dada, dog, baby, cracker, cup, and quack
10. Her adventurous streak. i.e. climbing everything...even though it scares me often
11. How well she now plays with Zayden
12. Her little curls in the back of her hair.
13. Her mole on her forehead
14. Those dimples
15. Her giggles
16. That she laughs when she hears someone else laugh
17. Her nonsense babbling
18. The way she walks all around
19. Her toes
20. Her love for shoes
21. Her love for being outside
22. That she loves the water
23. How she splashes in the water
24. The way she wants to be so independent at meal time
25. How she sits in my lap when I read to her
26. How she gets jealous of her brother, and will scream if I am holding him, and then try to push him aside.
27. How she plays well alone.
28. The way she "runs" to me when she notices that I have walked into the room
29. Her little butt
30. Her squishy belly
31. How she loves to be carrying something around
32. How excited she gets when going down a slide.
33. How happy she is to be swinging at the park.
34. Her love for her brother
35. Her screaming contests with her brother....sometimes
36. The way she dances when she hears music
37. Her lack of interest in the television
38. The way she claps.
39. That she has been 100% breastfed without any formula supplemented
40. Her curiosity
41. Her sense of awe
42. That she wants me to hold her when she is hurt, upset or scared
43. How she snuggles up to me before I put her to bed.
44. She is a good nurser
45. Her cheeks
46. Her happy disposition
47. Her "no fear" attitude
48. The way she chases Z
49. The way she runs back and forth between Brian and I when we are playing
50. Even her little fits
51. When she holds my hand/finger
52. The way she feels in my arms
53. The way she smells after bath
54. How cute she is wrapped up in a towel after bath
55. Watching her run around the house all happy to be naked
56. Her unique grayish eyes
57. How she is so good about taking things in stride
58. How she does really well in her carseat on trips.
59. That she loves to eat and eat and eat!
60. That she eats many veggies and fruit
61. That she does not have a dairy allergy.
62. How I can let her pick off of my plate without worries.
63. Her little whimpers.
64. Her little nose!
65. The way she flips pages in a book
66. How she loves to take walks
67. How she loves to push large objects around.
68. The way she will find a shoe and then it's match and walk around the house.
69. Watching her get mesmerized looking at herself in a mirror.
70. The way she squats for so long with so much ease.
71. Her ability to want to try anything
72. Her love for music
73. When she waves hi/bye occasionally.
74. How she will look for certain things when named.
75. How she is starting to show me things.
76. Her eyelashes
77. Her lips
78. All her little teeth
79. Her unconditional love for ME.
80. Her pouty frowns
81. When she blows raspberries on me and we both laugh
82. Her cute clothes
83. Her feet
84. Her little fingers
85. How she drinks so well from a sippy cup or straw
86. Her squealy laugh
87. How she naps pretty well
88. That she goes to bed pretty easily
89. That after nursing in the middle of the night she goes back to sleep easily.
90. How when she hears the bath water, she comes "running"
91. How she bounces on her zebra
92. The way she tries to jump
93. The way she climbs up on Z's timeout chair and rocks when I turn my back, and then laughs when I catch her.
94. The way she always goes and visits Z when he is in timeout.
95. Her chin
96. The way she loves to constantly open and close doors.
97. Watching her figure out something new
98. The way she can fall down hard, and get right back up smiling like nothing happened
99. The way she rubs her eyes when she is tired.
100. The joy she brings me E-V-E-R-Y day!!
101. She is MINE!!
And here are some pics of the birthday girl:
Her cake:
Her outfit:
Her checking out the cake and taking just little tastes:
Zayden and her playing in her favorite present, while she makes him laugh
And Z making her laugh:
Monday, July 13, 2009
I guess I am doing my job.
I think I could do better when it comes to being a mom, but the most important thing in my mind is to make sure my kids are safe, happy, and loved!! If I manage that, then I am doing my job.
Last night Z woke up crying in the middle of the night. I went to him, and he told me his leg hurt. I rocked with him for awhile, and then put him back to bed, and he went back to bed easily. I wondered if he would even remember in the morning.
This morning I asked him if he remembered waking up crying because his leg hurt. He said, "Yes, you rocked with me, and then it was better!"
Since Zayden was a baby we have done this thing I call "nosey nosey" (I do it with Ivy too). We basically just give eskimo kisses, and I say (now Z says) "nosey nosey nosey...." while we do it. It's very silly and maybe even a little odd, but something we do. Z asks for me to do "nosey nosey" with him every night now. It's the last thing we do before I leave his room. Tonight after I left his room I was hanging out in the living room, and I saw on the video monitor he was standing up. I ignored him for a while. After about 10 minutes he started hollering for me. I finally went in there, and he said, "Can we do nosey nosey one more time?" We did. I tucked him back in and he went right to sleep!
Today I had a bad day emotionally. I felt like a bad mom. I am grateful for Zayden for reminding me this morning first thing, and this evening last thing that I must be doing something right.
Last night Z woke up crying in the middle of the night. I went to him, and he told me his leg hurt. I rocked with him for awhile, and then put him back to bed, and he went back to bed easily. I wondered if he would even remember in the morning.
This morning I asked him if he remembered waking up crying because his leg hurt. He said, "Yes, you rocked with me, and then it was better!"
Since Zayden was a baby we have done this thing I call "nosey nosey" (I do it with Ivy too). We basically just give eskimo kisses, and I say (now Z says) "nosey nosey nosey...." while we do it. It's very silly and maybe even a little odd, but something we do. Z asks for me to do "nosey nosey" with him every night now. It's the last thing we do before I leave his room. Tonight after I left his room I was hanging out in the living room, and I saw on the video monitor he was standing up. I ignored him for a while. After about 10 minutes he started hollering for me. I finally went in there, and he said, "Can we do nosey nosey one more time?" We did. I tucked him back in and he went right to sleep!
Today I had a bad day emotionally. I felt like a bad mom. I am grateful for Zayden for reminding me this morning first thing, and this evening last thing that I must be doing something right.
Thursday, July 9, 2009
A day in our life!
Today I am going to write about a typical day in our house. I want to be able to go back years from now and read about a normal day. This was our yesterday....which was a pretty typical day.
It was Wednesday, so I had the day off and Brian was working. Zayden woke up first. It is nice that the kids really vary on who wakes up first. I enjoy that because it gives me time to spend alone with each of them depending on who wakes up first. Since Z woke up first, we played guys of course. His aunt Tara just found the COOLEST guys ever at a garage sale, and bought 21 of them with accessories and some station thing all for $20. They are called "Rescue Heroes". They were popular about 8-10 years ago. I have been researching them and they are about $20 each and there are movies and stuff. The reason I like them sooo much is that a) Zayden loves them and b) They are all GOOD guys. Z has been fascinated with "bad guys" lately, and I am happy that he is now playing with the good guys and they are rescuing and saving people, animals, and things all day long in our living room. He has police officers, firemen, astronauts, construction workers, etc.... He is sleeping with them and taking them everywhere he goes!! Yay for the good guys....finally!
Anyway, we saved a fish or something, and then Ivy woke up. We both ran in to get Ivy together and Ivy was excited to see us! We all played together for a bit and then I made them breakfast. They had waffles and pears. While they were eating, I packed our picnic lunch, and packed the car up with our stroller, blanket, lunch, and all the other essentials.
Then I got the kids dressed in their swimsuits because it was supposed to be a nice day and we were heading to a concert at a sprinkler park. I lathered them up with sunscreen. I bribed Z to go potty before we left, nursed Ivy and then we left.
Driving to the park was a little draining. I LOVE what a great conversationalist Z can be, but lately I admit the car rides can drain me. He talks non-stop the entire time! He mostly asks a million questions, and if I don't respond he keeps getting louder until he is yelling. Of course in the midst of all the constant chatter he manages to make me laugh a few times. Like when he asked, "What are those buildings?" and I told him "Storage units" and he then asked, "Can we go there sometime?" I told him, "Sure".
We get to the park, and go camp out in front of a silly man playing a guitar and singing kid songs. Ivy immediately started dancing and clapping. She loved it. Zayden enjoyed some of it. He danced and participated a little. By 10:15 Zayden was already asking for the food I brought, so the kids started nibbling on that while we listened, danced, and sang.
We were there a full hour, and then the show was over and we headed over to the park. Unfortunately it was too cold to get in the sprinklers. Z threw a fit about this until he saw the cool tractor that he wanted to play in. Zayden wanted to "drive" the tractor, and was waiting his turn while bigger kids pushed and shoved to get a turn. I was trying to keep track of Ivy who was trying to crawl up on everything she could. She was having a great time. Then Zayden and another boy a little bigger than him got in a screaming match. They both were screaming "My turn!" and jumping up and down and pointing fingers at each other. I told Z he had to stop and be nice. He did not. I made him get off the tractor, and then he had another fit, naturally. Ivy then decided she kept wanting to try to climb up the slide on the tractor backwards. I made the mistake of letting her do this a couple of times, and then that is all she wanted to do. I had to keep moving her when kids wanted to come down. Well, Zayden and a few other kids saw this and they all decided to copy Ivy and climb up the slide backwards too, and this caused a little chaos for the kids wanting to come down. I couldn't get Ivy to stop trying to climb up the slide and Z wasn't listening to me, so I finally just decided it was time to leave.....with one last fit from Zayden.
We get in the car and we are driving home and I'm worn out emotionally from the 30 minutes on the playground. Z then starts crying and demanding his water. I finally agreed to give it to him, if he would stop crying and ask nicely. He did. Then I remembered his water was still in the stroller which was now in the back of the car. :( So I had to pull over in a church parking lot and dig that out for him. On the way home I talked with him a lot about good behavior and being nice to the other kids at the park. I told him we had to leave because he wasn't playing nicely.
The kids didn't eat much of their "lunch" so I drove through a taco bell and got them a bean burrito without cheese to split, and myself some unhealthy junk. We got home and ate lunch. I changed them both into regular clothes. I then put Ivy down for her nap. After Ivy was asleep I got Z and we read a few stories, and then I laid him down for his nap.
While they napped, I relaxed and got on the computer some. I also did some laundry and cleaned the kitchen a little. Ivy woke first from her nap. When she woke up, we read a few books together. Then Z woke up and he and I read a couple of books together. After that we went out in the front yard to get some more fresh air. We ALL love to be outside.
Almost as soon as we stepped outside we saw Zayden's pal Ethan drive by. Ethan is a boy 6 weeks older than Z that lives right next door. Zayden and Ethan have become really good friends lately! It's kind of funny because before kids Ethan's parents and Brian and I were not friends and barely spoke. Now we talk often as the boys play. Anyway, Zayden started running for Ethan's house screaming "Ethan's home!", when he saw him. When Ethan got out of the car he ran for Z too. I wish I could have had a video of their meeting. They literally ran to each other with arms outstretched and embraced! I carried Ivy over there too, and chatted with Ethan's mom a little while the boys ran around and chased each other. Ivy squirmed to get out of my arms so I let her walk around a little too while we continued chatting. The boys started to hug again, but it turned kind of into a tackle, and they fell. Ethan hit his head and started crying. His mom said he had to go in still and take a nap anyway, and they went inside.
Ivy and Zayden kept heading down the sidewalk in the opposite direction of our house. We then saw "the tripletts" and their brother out riding their bikes. The tripletts are 7, and usually ignore Z which kind of makes him sad it seems. Today they told him hello, and their mom was outside and she started asking me about Ivy and commenting on how well she was walking. Then the tripletts (all boys) asked if Z had a "rescue hero", as he was carrying one of course. They then told us that they used to all play with the rescue heroes. I told their mom to let me know before she gets rid of any, and I'd buy them from her. She said they also have all the movies! Next thing I know all four brothers are running in/out of their house bringing out all of their rescue heroes along with their dogs, police cars, firetrucks, ships, etc.... Zayden was in heaven!! He sat with all the boys and played rescue heros for quite awhile while their mom and I talked and I followed Ivy around as she walked a little, and then eventually she sat and played with all the boys too!
Unfortunately it started to rain a little, so we had to clean up and go. We thanked the boys for being so nice and sharing their awesome toys with us, and headed in. Ivy was getting fussy, and I figured she was hungry, as she is a bottomless pit. I fed her an early dinner while Z played.
Brian came home and then we all went to the new park by our house. While we were driving there Z told me he was going to play nicely with the other kids....and he did!! :) We were supposed to meet, David, one of the kids I work with there at 5:00. Zayden has met David a couple of times before and really likes him. David is 12. Soon as we got to the park Zayden was calling for David, and asking the other kids if they saw him. Ivy was doing her usual climbing on everything routine.
David and his mom arrived and then Z followed David around everywhere, while I followed Ivy. Then Brian watched the kids while I took David for a ride in our jeep. He has been asking to ride in our jeep for a long time now. I found a little area a couple miles from the park where we were able to do a little bit of off roading, and he enjoyed that! We had a good time joking around as we bounced around in the jeep. We went back to the park and the kids played more.
I let Ivy go down a slide on her own for the first time and to say she LOVED it would be an understatement! She couldn't get enough and was screaming in laughter and had the hugest smiles ever!! I'd set her at the top of a small slide and then go to the bottom. She'd inch forward and slide down, and I'd catch her. We did this probably about 25 times. It started to rain again, so we had to go home.
We got home and I fed the kids dinner: chicken and mixed veggies. Yes, Ivy ate 2 dinners. After dinner we got the kids in their pajamas and got them ready for bed. It was bath night, but it was late, so I decided we'd skip the bath....a little dirt won't hurt them. Zayden actually asked to go to bed first, which is rare for him. He was anxious to go read with me. So I took him to his room and we read a few stories while Brian and Ivy played. I laid Z down, and then nursed Ivy and put her to sleep.
After the kids were asleep Brian and I ate dinner, played on the computer, watched TV, etc... and I cleaned up a little. And that was our day....a busy day....but a very typical day in our lives!
It was Wednesday, so I had the day off and Brian was working. Zayden woke up first. It is nice that the kids really vary on who wakes up first. I enjoy that because it gives me time to spend alone with each of them depending on who wakes up first. Since Z woke up first, we played guys of course. His aunt Tara just found the COOLEST guys ever at a garage sale, and bought 21 of them with accessories and some station thing all for $20. They are called "Rescue Heroes". They were popular about 8-10 years ago. I have been researching them and they are about $20 each and there are movies and stuff. The reason I like them sooo much is that a) Zayden loves them and b) They are all GOOD guys. Z has been fascinated with "bad guys" lately, and I am happy that he is now playing with the good guys and they are rescuing and saving people, animals, and things all day long in our living room. He has police officers, firemen, astronauts, construction workers, etc.... He is sleeping with them and taking them everywhere he goes!! Yay for the good guys....finally!
Anyway, we saved a fish or something, and then Ivy woke up. We both ran in to get Ivy together and Ivy was excited to see us! We all played together for a bit and then I made them breakfast. They had waffles and pears. While they were eating, I packed our picnic lunch, and packed the car up with our stroller, blanket, lunch, and all the other essentials.
Then I got the kids dressed in their swimsuits because it was supposed to be a nice day and we were heading to a concert at a sprinkler park. I lathered them up with sunscreen. I bribed Z to go potty before we left, nursed Ivy and then we left.
Driving to the park was a little draining. I LOVE what a great conversationalist Z can be, but lately I admit the car rides can drain me. He talks non-stop the entire time! He mostly asks a million questions, and if I don't respond he keeps getting louder until he is yelling. Of course in the midst of all the constant chatter he manages to make me laugh a few times. Like when he asked, "What are those buildings?" and I told him "Storage units" and he then asked, "Can we go there sometime?" I told him, "Sure".
We get to the park, and go camp out in front of a silly man playing a guitar and singing kid songs. Ivy immediately started dancing and clapping. She loved it. Zayden enjoyed some of it. He danced and participated a little. By 10:15 Zayden was already asking for the food I brought, so the kids started nibbling on that while we listened, danced, and sang.
We were there a full hour, and then the show was over and we headed over to the park. Unfortunately it was too cold to get in the sprinklers. Z threw a fit about this until he saw the cool tractor that he wanted to play in. Zayden wanted to "drive" the tractor, and was waiting his turn while bigger kids pushed and shoved to get a turn. I was trying to keep track of Ivy who was trying to crawl up on everything she could. She was having a great time. Then Zayden and another boy a little bigger than him got in a screaming match. They both were screaming "My turn!" and jumping up and down and pointing fingers at each other. I told Z he had to stop and be nice. He did not. I made him get off the tractor, and then he had another fit, naturally. Ivy then decided she kept wanting to try to climb up the slide on the tractor backwards. I made the mistake of letting her do this a couple of times, and then that is all she wanted to do. I had to keep moving her when kids wanted to come down. Well, Zayden and a few other kids saw this and they all decided to copy Ivy and climb up the slide backwards too, and this caused a little chaos for the kids wanting to come down. I couldn't get Ivy to stop trying to climb up the slide and Z wasn't listening to me, so I finally just decided it was time to leave.....with one last fit from Zayden.
We get in the car and we are driving home and I'm worn out emotionally from the 30 minutes on the playground. Z then starts crying and demanding his water. I finally agreed to give it to him, if he would stop crying and ask nicely. He did. Then I remembered his water was still in the stroller which was now in the back of the car. :( So I had to pull over in a church parking lot and dig that out for him. On the way home I talked with him a lot about good behavior and being nice to the other kids at the park. I told him we had to leave because he wasn't playing nicely.
The kids didn't eat much of their "lunch" so I drove through a taco bell and got them a bean burrito without cheese to split, and myself some unhealthy junk. We got home and ate lunch. I changed them both into regular clothes. I then put Ivy down for her nap. After Ivy was asleep I got Z and we read a few stories, and then I laid him down for his nap.
While they napped, I relaxed and got on the computer some. I also did some laundry and cleaned the kitchen a little. Ivy woke first from her nap. When she woke up, we read a few books together. Then Z woke up and he and I read a couple of books together. After that we went out in the front yard to get some more fresh air. We ALL love to be outside.
Almost as soon as we stepped outside we saw Zayden's pal Ethan drive by. Ethan is a boy 6 weeks older than Z that lives right next door. Zayden and Ethan have become really good friends lately! It's kind of funny because before kids Ethan's parents and Brian and I were not friends and barely spoke. Now we talk often as the boys play. Anyway, Zayden started running for Ethan's house screaming "Ethan's home!", when he saw him. When Ethan got out of the car he ran for Z too. I wish I could have had a video of their meeting. They literally ran to each other with arms outstretched and embraced! I carried Ivy over there too, and chatted with Ethan's mom a little while the boys ran around and chased each other. Ivy squirmed to get out of my arms so I let her walk around a little too while we continued chatting. The boys started to hug again, but it turned kind of into a tackle, and they fell. Ethan hit his head and started crying. His mom said he had to go in still and take a nap anyway, and they went inside.
Ivy and Zayden kept heading down the sidewalk in the opposite direction of our house. We then saw "the tripletts" and their brother out riding their bikes. The tripletts are 7, and usually ignore Z which kind of makes him sad it seems. Today they told him hello, and their mom was outside and she started asking me about Ivy and commenting on how well she was walking. Then the tripletts (all boys) asked if Z had a "rescue hero", as he was carrying one of course. They then told us that they used to all play with the rescue heroes. I told their mom to let me know before she gets rid of any, and I'd buy them from her. She said they also have all the movies! Next thing I know all four brothers are running in/out of their house bringing out all of their rescue heroes along with their dogs, police cars, firetrucks, ships, etc.... Zayden was in heaven!! He sat with all the boys and played rescue heros for quite awhile while their mom and I talked and I followed Ivy around as she walked a little, and then eventually she sat and played with all the boys too!
Unfortunately it started to rain a little, so we had to clean up and go. We thanked the boys for being so nice and sharing their awesome toys with us, and headed in. Ivy was getting fussy, and I figured she was hungry, as she is a bottomless pit. I fed her an early dinner while Z played.
Brian came home and then we all went to the new park by our house. While we were driving there Z told me he was going to play nicely with the other kids....and he did!! :) We were supposed to meet, David, one of the kids I work with there at 5:00. Zayden has met David a couple of times before and really likes him. David is 12. Soon as we got to the park Zayden was calling for David, and asking the other kids if they saw him. Ivy was doing her usual climbing on everything routine.
David and his mom arrived and then Z followed David around everywhere, while I followed Ivy. Then Brian watched the kids while I took David for a ride in our jeep. He has been asking to ride in our jeep for a long time now. I found a little area a couple miles from the park where we were able to do a little bit of off roading, and he enjoyed that! We had a good time joking around as we bounced around in the jeep. We went back to the park and the kids played more.
I let Ivy go down a slide on her own for the first time and to say she LOVED it would be an understatement! She couldn't get enough and was screaming in laughter and had the hugest smiles ever!! I'd set her at the top of a small slide and then go to the bottom. She'd inch forward and slide down, and I'd catch her. We did this probably about 25 times. It started to rain again, so we had to go home.
We got home and I fed the kids dinner: chicken and mixed veggies. Yes, Ivy ate 2 dinners. After dinner we got the kids in their pajamas and got them ready for bed. It was bath night, but it was late, so I decided we'd skip the bath....a little dirt won't hurt them. Zayden actually asked to go to bed first, which is rare for him. He was anxious to go read with me. So I took him to his room and we read a few stories while Brian and Ivy played. I laid Z down, and then nursed Ivy and put her to sleep.
After the kids were asleep Brian and I ate dinner, played on the computer, watched TV, etc... and I cleaned up a little. And that was our day....a busy day....but a very typical day in our lives!
Monday, July 6, 2009
Friday, July 3, 2009
What's new with my two?
We are loving the summer! It has been so fun to be outside every day doing something. We have been to the zoo, the pool, and to splash parks, and we are spending a lot of time at the brand new park that was built just down the road from us. Both kids love to be outside, love the park, and LOVE playing in the water!! I am enjoying it all too!! Ivy is on the go non-stop now, so it can be stressful since they always seem to be taking off in opposite directions, but we are managing and having lots of fun!!
Ivy is trying to talk more. She tries to repeat more words. She will repeat "cracker" and "quack quack" now. She is climbing on EVERYTHING. She loves jumping zebra toy. She climbs on and off that thing all day now, and even though her feet barely touch, she tries her best to bounce and gets it going a little bit. I am excitedly getting ready for her big first birthday!! I think it will be a lot of fun. I love her cake that I designed with a pastry chef's help....I definitely won't be making it. AND I love the outfit that she will be wearing that I had made on Etsy.com.
Zayden is doing well. He is playing better with Ivy now. They love to chase each other now, and he enjoys making her laugh! He spends most of his days when we are not outside playing with his "guys" still. I am starting to think he will be a director or something. He acts out such elaborate stories with all his guys, and I love listening to him and watching.
A couple recent funnies:
The other day I went to go to the bathroom, and both kids followed me of course. Brian was home so I asked Zayden if he would wait outside. He told me "NO, I want to go with you." I told him I just really wanted to go to the bathroom alone for a change, and he told me, "No, I want to come with you, because I am afraid you might get lost." How could I say no to that reasoning?
Today I was making breakfast and I asked him if he wanted a "piece of toast". His response: "Yes......NO! I don't want a PIECE of toast. I want a big one!"
And here are a few pictures of our recent fun:
Ivy at our new park:
Z hiding in all kinds of fun places at the new park:
A fraction of the new park....it is SO nice!!:
Ivy on her new favorite toy:
Z at a sprinkler park:
Ivy having NO FEAR at the sprinkler park!:
Ivy is trying to talk more. She tries to repeat more words. She will repeat "cracker" and "quack quack" now. She is climbing on EVERYTHING. She loves jumping zebra toy. She climbs on and off that thing all day now, and even though her feet barely touch, she tries her best to bounce and gets it going a little bit. I am excitedly getting ready for her big first birthday!! I think it will be a lot of fun. I love her cake that I designed with a pastry chef's help....I definitely won't be making it. AND I love the outfit that she will be wearing that I had made on Etsy.com.
Zayden is doing well. He is playing better with Ivy now. They love to chase each other now, and he enjoys making her laugh! He spends most of his days when we are not outside playing with his "guys" still. I am starting to think he will be a director or something. He acts out such elaborate stories with all his guys, and I love listening to him and watching.
A couple recent funnies:
The other day I went to go to the bathroom, and both kids followed me of course. Brian was home so I asked Zayden if he would wait outside. He told me "NO, I want to go with you." I told him I just really wanted to go to the bathroom alone for a change, and he told me, "No, I want to come with you, because I am afraid you might get lost." How could I say no to that reasoning?
Today I was making breakfast and I asked him if he wanted a "piece of toast". His response: "Yes......NO! I don't want a PIECE of toast. I want a big one!"
And here are a few pictures of our recent fun:
Ivy at our new park:
Z hiding in all kinds of fun places at the new park:
A fraction of the new park....it is SO nice!!: 
Ivy on her new favorite toy:
Z at a sprinkler park:
Ivy having NO FEAR at the sprinkler park!:
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